The myriad effects of trauma can effect one’s life in many ways. The most common aspect named as helplessness. This is a feeling we will do almost anything to get away from; whether it is avoiding others. blaming others, medicating ourselves with busyness or substance, immobolization, chronic indecision or other unhealthy behaviors. Some people
will fight fight fight to get away from the bad feelings; some will acquiesce, submit and adapt.
Both of these patterns are ‘reactions’ to trauma rather than responses which come from the adult self. Trauma is not your fault…and can be healed over time, perhaps, many years of consistent psychotherapy.