This is a time in our history that will have indelible effects on our lives and future generations. Coping with COVID has created many challenges; dealing with quarantine
has not been easy and people feel trapped, anxious, scared and hopeless. All of these feelings are normal as this pandemic is ongoing with no end date in sight. Take a breath,
connect with a friend, get support and know you are not alone.
And, as race and LGBTQI issues dominate the news, we need to hold in our minds and hearts the hope for equality and peace.
One of the ongoing challenges of everyday life is how to handle disappointment.
Life is full of them. They happen regardless of how well we try to prevent them.
Allowing oneself to feel the bad feeling and allowing it to pass through you is the best way to not get mired down with lingering bad thoughts. Disappointment is a feeling,
not a state of being for most…and like all feelings, it come and then it passes.
It’s only when we attach ourselves to the situation, that bad feelings sustain and spoil
MAKING time for quiet is essential to one’s well being. Being with quiet allows one’s mind to
pause and relax; and thoughts and feelings reign free unemcumbered by the busyness of every day life. It isn’t always easy to separate from others and time from all the doing.
However, MAKING a conscious commitment to Quiet is a form of self-care we will need for balance and harmony.
And how we need it…more than ever. In a time full of strife, suffering and conflict; being kind with ourselves and others can combat the uncontrollable facets of our lives. Perhaps a National Kindness Day; March on Washington. When
there is a chaos , the best and most we can do is be kind.
It seems to be the word a lot of people are using these days. What is balance? Balance is the capacity to hold present anxiety, fears, bad feelings and thoughts with an awareness that we can’t control the next moment, (except to be present)
and our fears, bad feelings and thoughts do pass when we allow a breath and another breath; being with the moment!
Balance is knowing that the rhythm of the season changes holds an organic dance for our being grounded and alive.
Living with uncertainty causes fear in many people. What will happen tomorrow and the day after? Although uncertainty is a natural part of life and always present for everyone; making changes may be especially hard when the future is simply unknown. If you take a moment and think about all the times you have made a decision, whether for better or worse, you have probably landed on your feet. A client recently used the word, wobbly, to describe the uncertainty she was feeling. Yes to wobbly! Holding the hope of each day coupled with life’s uncertainty can make us all unsteady!
Defintion: the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. Humans can endure a lot.
The passage of time coupled with mental and physical strength make us all resilient during stressful times.
Holding this challenge is hard at times, making some want to surrender, become hopeless and immobilized.
Others, can tolerate the uncertainty with greater fortitude. Let us all be compassionate with ourselves
when our heart hurts and we feel fear.
Avoidance is the hope that with time and unconsciousness the painful unresolved feelings or issue will go away.
But, we know, it never does and all too often, avoiding what needs to be addressed makes the problem worse. Avoidance is fueled by projection and the imagined repercussions of dealing with what’s in front on one at the moment: s/he will be hurt or mad at me if I speak up…or I’lll never recover from my sadness. Pain and bad feelings pass and avoiding avoidance and risking being with whatever needs attending, will make you a stronger and healthier person.
To sit with…the anxious moments of life…with uncertainty and not knowing is hard. We think if we know what’s going to happen…which is I’m possible; or in some control what is going to happen…our lives will be easier. So, we spend time keeping ourselves busy with whatever so we don’t have to feel some of the bad feelings of fear or loss that are natural in life. The Pause Button, accompanied with a breath, can help us navigate this anxious moments. We all have them and have to manage those internal questions about life, meaning and purpose. Taking a moment to pause is a gift to yourself; to smell, taste, feel and see what is before us.