In my work with clients I continually notice how difficult it is for many who have had traumatic childhoods to expect kindness in their lives. Having been treated poorly, without respect, in the past, it’s not surprising that many choose
again unloving partners. The “feeling bad” is a normative experience. To make change to one’s internal template
and and make room for kindness can take a long time. Fostering self-belief along with relinquishing old patterns can free one to welcome the love they naturally deserve.